by Courtney Inkpen

How blogging [almost] destroyed my friendship...

I'm going to go ahead and jump right to it...
I've never written something like this before, but this has been a topic on my mind for a while and have felt that it's a topic that I want to shine a light on: Friendships being tested in the blogging community. 

I've heard stories of friendships (I'm even talking about long time friendships) deteriorating due to the competitiveness of blogging. I've heard stories about other bloggers and their blogging friends calling it quits because the blogging business has, in some way, interfered and put a strain in friendships. The end result? Well, ending.

Now you're probably wondering why I'm writing this? So let me begin because this is actually a story about my friend and I...

I have experienced this. But here's the twist, I was the one that let my pride/competitiveness [almost] destroy my friendship. Not my proudest moment.

Back when I first started blogging, I was doing it purely for fun and not thinking it would be anything. When our husbands couldn't take our blog pictures, we would get together and take each others. But as I started to grow, so did my ego. I always thought I was a pretty good Christian girl, but how I acted then was anything but.

I would start critiquing her page, comparing her to me and letting those insecurities consume me. Which then lead to a wedge of bitterness and resentment towards one another.

I don't want to dive too much into details because this is something of the past and have moved on from, but overall, how we acted towards each other during those times was, blatantly speaking, stupid. I gained nothing out of it except pointless anger.

There is a good ending to this though, we have since then forgiven each other (over chips n' dip and margaritas) and have grown closer since our fall out. Even though our friendship did have a troubled year, we also grew from it. I even gained a sense of humility which has then helped me see things a little bit more clearer and wiser as I continue to blog and grow within it.

Moral of the story: Nothing, not even blogging, is worth losing your friend over.

You see, I hear so much about how we as girls need to support one another in the blogging community and to treat everyone with motivating support, but yet, when I continue to see friendships being tested or ending because of this, it isn't necessarily sticking to the motto. I mean, I get it, but is it really worth getting envious and anxious over? Blogging isn't supposed to be a competition, what you blog is YOU and no one else can be that.

Again, I'm not proud of how I acted, but I am grateful to have taken what I have learned from this experience and shape myself to be better. I can only hope to continue to strive with kindness and humility, and to be nothing but supportive for those who want to be successful in this industry. It's a hard industry to get noticed in, but it is always good to remind yourself on why you started blogging in the first place. :)


Brittany & I
Definitely go give her a follow! @mrsbbg_

What does the bible say about competition?

Philippians 2:3-4

Do nothing from rivalry or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.

Galatians 5:26

Let us not become conceited, provoking one another, envying one another.

2 Corinthians 10:12

Not that we dare to classify or compare ourselves with some of those who are commending themselves. But when they measure themselves by one another and compare themselves with one another, they are without understanding.

Colossians 3:12

Put on then, as God's chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience,

Colossians 3:23

Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men,

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